An Explanation for having sex in the dream.
Dear Dr Kathy
What is your explanation for having sex in the dream?.
Thanks for your time & energy.
Dear Reader
Another “not so easy explanation”…but I will do my best to highlight the varied meanings…Unlike other dream interpreters, I don’t believe Freud’s concepts of dream interpretation, believing that most dreams are sexual by nature…NOT TRUE unless you are sexually pre-occupied or have a sexual addiction disorder, then your dreams might indicate the literal act of sex which would include your fears about sex or your own sexual thoughts, desires, or wishful thinking.
There are a number of reasons for having sex dreams. The first and most common is for the dreamer to get intimate with their male / female side. In cases where, a person is too male (e.g. causing them to repress their feelings, too macho, too much ego etc.) or too female (causing them to lack confidence in themselves, maybe too sensitive, too much nurturing to the point of enabling others), the dream tries to heal this by representing the male or female side as something desirable, something to develop within yourself.
Sometimes the act of sex between the two opposite sexes indicates you have chosen to accept these qualities and are working at being either more emotional or less sensitive (for example).
If you find yourself having sex with a male/female you know of, then ask yourself “what character traits does this person have that I want to develop within myself?” I have had dreams of a man I admire which indicated the type of man I wanted to be with someday. I dreamt of having sex with Patrick Swayze (the actor) because I wanted to dance like him as well as find a partner to dance with (dirty dancing movie). This dream actually motivated me to take ballroom dancing for fun….and I love it. Bring on that Mambo…I’m ready for it, thanks to Patrick!
The dream wants both male and female sides of the self to share closeness in an uninhibited way. This sharing restores balance to the dreamer so they can draw on the strength inherent in the aspect of their nature they were repressing. Ideally, we all want to balance our male/female sides. Our God is as much female as he is male. His compassion and heart felt love is a female aspect…among other traits. Our God does not think nor acts like our human macho man. He represents the character traits we all want to develop within ourselves…to be more like Christ.
Many people are shocked to find themselves having sex in a dream with a person of the same sex.. A woman having sex with another woman in a dream is a healing device intended to put the dreamer in close contact with her heart / feelings. It’s learning to love and accept you as a woman. (Unless you are a man, then it’s learning to except your male characteristics and to love who you are.) This can often be misinterpreted by sexes to mean they are “gay” individuals, when that isn’t normally the case at all.
Sexual Dreams can also be stress reducers. If you have been inactive for a while, you may just need release, but don’t desire to sleep around with just anyone to get it. In this case the dream attempts to heal stress or whatever impact abstinence is having on the relationship or lack of a relationship.
Whenever a dreamer is able to be honest with themselves in private but puts on a false image in public by appearing tough, non-emotional, may find themselves have sex or being naked in public indicating the fear of being vulnerable in front of others. Again the purpose of the dream is to face the truth about you, face the fear. Do not be afraid of being honest with others in private or public. So you get a little vulnerable, it’s okay, allow yourself to experience it.
There are many other sexual dreams that could be discussed here, but for the sake of time and my fingers cramping….I will end here. Should you have a specific dream you’d like help with, do not hesitate to write me.
Sincerely
DrKathy